Psychology is Physiology

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Peer Pressure

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Sometimes the cause of ‘feelings’ may not be clean cut, but just working on intuition often clears the problem.

In this message ‘music’ can be replaced with ‘sport’.
Peer Pressure.

“Well”, said Alicia, “I have to tell you about one of the boys in my grade. He attends a unique public school for the arts. Every month they have performances in which he plays the trumpet. In the past he has experienced “fear of making a mistake” and “worry around his peers laughing at him.”
The night before the performance, while he was practicing his trumpet, I went into his music room and asked if he wanted to do the tapping thing. We ran into two difficulties. He had some difficulty tuning into the problem because he was relatively relaxed and calm. We tried talking about some of his past experiences yet he felt he could not get into it. We tried moving into the future anticipating what the next day would be like and he said he just didn’t get a sense of the fear. I wanted to proceed anyway so that he could learn the sequence. He even had a hard time with the number rating not knowing what he felt really. We tapped for the previous issues anyway just to go through the procedure.
He came home after school and I asked him how it went and he said “Great! And Oh I did tap before the performance.”
[Set-up phrase: ‘Even though I have a fear of making a mistake……………
Even though I have a fear of my peers laughing at me……………]

The EFT Family – Coach/Athlete Friction

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[Substitute Coach/Athlete for Student/Teacher]

Student/Teacher Friction

David entered the discussion, “We have a children’s residential psychiatric facility. One day one of the teachers came to me and said “Do something with this boy…he can’t come back to class until he settles down!” The teacher and boy were obviously furious with one another and the air was electric with the mood.
“Jason” quickly related that the teacher had been “an ##**!!” and he hated him. But didn’t want to miss school and get behind on his work. I mentioned that I had been learning a very simple but rather strange technique where you tap on acupuncture meridians to help calm yourself down. The boy agreed he would like to try it.
We tapped on “I hate the ##**!!!” for one round. He stood up and cracked every joint in his body and said he was feeling much better. He still had rating of 3. So we tapped one more round on “still some upset with the teacher”. On the completion of that round he announced he felt perfectly calm and was ready to go back and debrief with the teacher.
We did and he managed to be polite, assertive and calm throughout the discussion – even though the teacher was still rather charged in his negativity (I offered later to tap on him but he was not willing). Jason returned to school and managed the next 4 hours without incident.
During the tapping and related discussion Jason admitted that the teacher reminded him of his very controlling father. Since I was not his main worker I did not get into that layer of the problem but suggested he could work on it later using the same technique.

Attitude Gets It Every Time

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How hard is it to train your heart out only to be let down by nerves at the point of competition?

For years I have taught athletes to be in control of their emotions, and I have , of course, used it to great advantage myself.

I never was a ‘gifted’ athlete and failed miserably at school sports.  I took up coaching when there was no one else to do the job  Then left it until I discovered Neuro Linguistic Programming and was approached by an athlete to take over her training.  So, yes, I thought I could use NLP to advantage as a coach.

That worked well until EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique, came along and realy made a difference.  I introduced it to some of my athletes but only a few would acknowledge it’s value.  Probably because it’s ‘new age’ stuff and secondly our tough as nails athletes would not admit to having a need for ‘nerve cure’.

EFT has made some wonderful differences to some lives I have touched, including mine, and I first used it for myself in the sporting context at my first national comp five years ago.  The result was unimpressive for me as it took three days for my emotions to agree that I had won my first two Gold medals.  No elation when crossing the line, just ‘Ho hum, I’ve come first’.

So having left EFT almost dormant, except for myself, I was pleasantly surprised to find Dr Silvia Hartmann has taken it to a new level, way past ‘ho hum’ to ‘what absolute joy’.  Impressed enough to enter her Master Certification Course and re-enter the Proffesional EFT field.

This is about Emotional Body Energy.  When it flows, you feel great.  When it doesn’t you feel crap.  This is how to make it work for you.